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25 September 2014 @ 05:52 am
Goodbye old friends  
My friends list just got a lot smaller. I decided to finally do a friends cut after all this time. I still kept a few who I should probably delete since the last time they updated was back in 2012 and then there are some that have just never bothered to interact regardless of me trying with them. I don't know why people do that. They never comment on your journal yet the expect you to on theirs. The whole point of adding people to your friends list is to interact and actually be friends.

I cut people who haven’t updated since 2011 or people who abandon their journals for dreamwidth and were not going to make a return to livejournal. It was bittersweet because I felt I was just holding onto those journals for old memory sake since some of them I had known since I was 19. Hopefully I didn't cut anyone I didn't mean too. I tried very careful when I went down the line.
 
 
 
deep cover gecko: [misc.] → everybody tries to push meburger on September 25th, 2014 10:11 am (UTC)
It's good to have a clearout now and then, I definitely have some people on my flist who haven't updated for four or five years who I should probably delete but I used to be good friends with most of them (some I'm still in contact with/still friends with, it's just that now they use facebook or twitter instead) and I feel weird about removing them! If they haven't been on LJ in years and years it's unlikely they'd get offended lol but still... friends cuts are awkward!
「 アリソン  」hellonelo on September 26th, 2014 05:54 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I know what you mean lol. You always have that thought of, "what if they return?" When I was going through the cut, I actually had a few instances of, Oh, I remember this person. That sounds horrible but they had not updated in such a long time I had forgotten. Usually after a year, especially even more i'm just like, yeah I doubt they're coming back.
jessi lynn: AUTUMN △ UNWINDtrex_in_boots on September 25th, 2014 10:34 am (UTC)
Sometimes it's good to do a clean out especially if people aren't around for 2+ years. I struggle in cutting people but after 1+ years I fell there isn't much of a choice. *HUGGLES*
「 アリソン  」hellonelo on September 26th, 2014 05:56 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I figure after one or two years, they're probably not returning. *HUGS*
jessi lynn: AUTUMN △ DEVIOUStrex_in_boots on September 27th, 2014 02:45 am (UTC)
Yeah, this is very true.
hey stranger I want you to catch me like a cold: [pkmn] charmanderstarrysnafu on September 25th, 2014 03:56 pm (UTC)
I think a lot of us are in the same situation; so many people have left for twitter, tumblr, or dreamwidth that a majority of our friends haven't updated in years.

It's hard to cut them, because you keep hoping they'll come back and you don't want to forget them...I should probably do a cut too.
「 アリソン  」hellonelo on September 26th, 2014 05:59 pm (UTC)
I know a year or so ago there were a lot of people from LJ left for Dreamwidth since it's a lot like how LJ use to be without all of the errors etc. It kinda sucks since I no longer talk to them since I decided to not make the move fully and keeping up with two journals is just hard.
Jamiestorybox on September 25th, 2014 07:06 pm (UTC)
Thanks so much for keeping me! ♥
「 アリソン  」hellonelo on September 26th, 2014 06:00 pm (UTC)
No problem! I was just cutting people with dead journals.
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「 アリソン  」hellonelo on September 26th, 2014 06:01 pm (UTC)
I wasn't gonna cut ya! :) Just cutting old/dead journals.
「B R A N」sorrowfulskies on September 25th, 2014 09:05 pm (UTC)
then there are some that have just never bothered to interact regardless of me trying with them. I don't know why people do that. They never comment on your journal yet the expect you to on theirs. The whole point of adding people to your friends list is to interact and actually be friends.

Omg this so much ;n; I completely understand.

I also understand not wanting to cut someone you were close with once, but they've abandoned their journal. It's more sentimental reasons than any. But to kick it up a notch, when I moved journals, I added those who I was close with who haven't updated in a year or more. A few have yet to add me back, so I guess I keep out hope they will come back /sadface
「 アリソン  」hellonelo on September 26th, 2014 06:24 pm (UTC)
That's become an LJ pet-peeve of mine lol. Don't add someone if they're only going to become a number to you, that's just horrible.

Oh I know what you mean. I used to do that and then I finally was like, why am I doing this? It took me a a little while to do a proper friends cut years ago and then actually jump into the add____ communities.
orangerfulorangerful on September 26th, 2014 03:48 am (UTC)
It is bittersweet to cut those old LJ friends. I've been on here for over ten years now and there are so many dead journals listed in my "friends" list. I should clean house but...you're right, in a weird way it makes you a little sad.
「 アリソン  」hellonelo on September 26th, 2014 06:22 pm (UTC)
I think it makes it extra hard if you have been on here for a while so you have all these memories of your younger years with these people. It's all so bittersweet.
Geeky Mintmintbunny on September 26th, 2014 09:32 am (UTC)
I read my flist once a day but I rarely comment and I don't update anymore. I don't really like journaling anymore. I have a huge presence on Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, and My Figure Collection. I don't know what happened honestly. I keep wanting to get back in, but I find instant blogging ( a la Twiiter) is easier and more fun for me. I will not be mad if you cut me, but I'm glad I'm still here nonetheless.
「 アリソン  」hellonelo on September 26th, 2014 06:20 pm (UTC)
That's understandable, sometimes you just grow out of it and it can be time consuming after all. I think the reason what keeps me coming back here is just to really interact with people above all since I don't have some of them added on twitter or facebook. FB is just so easy to use which is where I go to most when I'm busy with my website and unable to make a proper post.
(ノ◕ヮ◕)ノ*: ・゚✧: Alice in a Strange Worldbluecherrybomb on September 26th, 2014 10:13 am (UTC)
Sometimes I dream about Livejournal having a comeback. Like people coming back for nostalgia but with tumblr and instant tweets and such I know people's attention spans are no longer on long, thoughtful entries and more impassioned arguments and such. Which is fine but... I still like LJ above all ):
「 アリソン  」hellonelo on September 26th, 2014 06:10 pm (UTC)
omg, I just realized I un-added you in the cut....which wasn't meant to happen. *fixes.* Sorry about that!

While Livejournal hasn't been the same for a long time and they still really need to fix things, what keeps me here are all you guys who haven't left for other blog sites etc. I'm all for twitter for quick little things, it's fun but having a blog just makes things more personal...if that makes sense. That's so true though sadly. Same here.
(ノ◕ヮ◕)ノ*: ・゚✧: Alice in a Strange Worldbluecherrybomb on September 26th, 2014 07:04 pm (UTC)
Ahaha, actually when I changed my name I hit the wrong button and it unadded me from everyone's list! I was like "..." and then just sat in the corner in shame.

I honestly stay here because unlike the other media sites, I LOVE the option of locking entries (not for wank but for Friends Only type things where I post personal stuff or just posting a rant only I can see and moving on. It's therapeutic) and the fact you need to spend time on here. I like reading the long entries that people post on here because I feel connected unlike tumblr where someone just clicks a button and keeps scrolling. I feel like here I can wave to someone and they'd wave back. If that makes sense.
「 アリソン  」hellonelo on September 29th, 2014 11:25 am (UTC)
I'm the same way, I like that sense of privacy because a lot of people only write things for their friends to see and not the rest of the internet. You can't really do that on a lot of these other blogging sites. That's why it makes me kinda sad at times LJ tries to thrive to be like them, but in doing that they've just driven people away. They still have a lot of features that make them different from Tumblr though.

That's what I hate about Tumblr. So many people NEVER read anything on there and it's really very sad.
(ノ◕ヮ◕)ノ*: ・゚✧: Alice in a Strange Worldbluecherrybomb on September 29th, 2014 11:51 am (UTC)
Tumblr is very much an instant website. While I like it for the pretty pictures on there, opinions are as short as a tweet and anyone who writes things longer is ignored because 'tl;dr'. Opinions need to be quick, current, and sexy. Only some opinions matter. Everything moves so fast on there that it's rather hard to keep up with who is a bastard now before it's onto someone else. It makes me feel like I was never connected with anyone. Plus, their message box is stupid. I hate that limit. I try to talk to people on there but urrrrgh.
blastofserenity: got: dragons eggblastofserenity on September 27th, 2014 02:58 am (UTC)
Thanks for keeping me! :) Yeah, I don't understand when people add others and then don't bother to at least try to connect or maintain a relationship with them.

One of the reasons why I ended up moving to a new journal last year was partly because of all the abandoned journals and people I had on my flist. I didn't want to delete them but I also wanted a fresh start. :)
「 アリソン  」hellonelo on September 29th, 2014 11:21 am (UTC)
What's irritating too is when they will say "I still read" but they never comment or if they do it's once a year. It just leaves me scratching my head in confusion.

Yeah, that's a good idea. I just figured though since half had moved onto other journal sites they most likely were not coming back after several years.
blastofserenityblastofserenity on October 1st, 2014 02:34 am (UTC)
ikr! I completely understand that sometimes people won't have anything to comment on for some posts but I don't understand someone continuously reading another persons journal but never engaging in them. I just don't get. XD

Yeah, unfortunately not. I miss when all the people I was close with used this site.
Chrispolkadotsshoes on September 27th, 2014 11:45 am (UTC)
Thanks for keeping me. I was one theses who left live journal in mid-2011 and then came back after I had lost my previous job at the end of last year. It was nice that a bunch of my friends who I had on my list since my college days kept me cut after cut. It was good having to not start over on a website that seems a little empty these days.
Rafirarafira on September 29th, 2014 12:53 pm (UTC)
oh man good on you for doing that. tbh i'm soo hesitant in case they decide to come back eventally. lj has been so empty.
I_llbedammnedi_llbedammned on September 30th, 2014 09:11 pm (UTC)
I know that feeling. I keep some journals around just for memories and it is a bit bittersweet to see them there.
Jon Jonjonjonxd on October 6th, 2014 02:58 am (UTC)
It's understandable.

Happy you didn't cut me! I know I'm like never around on LJ anymore :(